First of all, I didn’t even know there was a such thing as singles awareness day. I’ve literally been single for most of my life and I’m sad I haven’t figured this out until now. That being said, I fully intend to celebrate going forward.
Whether you are single and never married, widowed, divorced, or fresh out of a breakup, be sure to embrace your singlehood and make the most of it.
What Is Singles Awareness Day?
Singles Awareness Day is the day after Valentine’s Day, on February 15th, and is sometimes also referred to as singles appreciation day (not to be confused with National Singles Day which occurs in November). It’s meant to celebrate the single life, and the other relationships you have. For instance, your relationships with your parents, your friends, and most importantly with yourself.
A trend that has emerged is that on this day many people wear green as it is symbolically the opposite of red, and therefore the opposite of Valentine’s Day.
Popular misconceptions Singles Awareness Day brings is that it’s about self-pity, or celebrating out of spite. But that’s not true; rather, it’s a chance to announce to the world that you are single and happy to be so.
In other words, find ways to celebrate you, your choices, the people you have in your life, and the fact that you are what’s best for you.
Single is no longer a lack of options – but a choice. A choice to refuse to let your life be defined by your relationship status but to live every day Happily and let your Ever After work itself out.Mandy Hale
Some Ideas to Celebrate Singles Awareness Day
Forget about going on dates and finding a husband or significant other. Don’t isolate yourself and drown in thoughts of spinsterhood. Rather, spend Valentine’s Day weekend (or day) for yourself and enjoy your singleness. Celebrate everything you do have!
One increasingly popular activity is to make a vacation out of it; another popular option is to take the day off, gather your single friends and make a day (or night) out of it. Being single is nothing to be ashamed of, so get out there and enjoy it!
Here are some other ways you can celebrate with friends:
- Spa Day – hello pampering and champagne
- Road trip – plan a quick girls weekend getaway
- A night out on the town
- Visit a winery
- Go shopping and treat yourself – chocolates, lingerie (not just for special occasions)
- Do something on your bucket list – being single doesn’t mean you can’t (or shouldn’t) live your life. Go do something you’ve always wanted to do!
- Go out to a nice dinner – for all the foodies out there, pick a spot you’ve always wanted to try and make some reservations!
Since the day is also about nurturing your other relationships, here are some ideas for what to do with family.
- Go visit your family
- Plan a nice dinner, if not out, then cook for them!
- Get your family a small gift to let them know they matter
- If you can’t visit, plan a Facetime call, play some virtual games or a virtual happy hour
- Plan a family vacation
Finally, here are some ways to celebrate on your own, should you choose to spend time with yourself and give yourself some self-love:
- Spa day – seriously just go by yourself
- Turn off your cell phone, no TV – focus on a hobby that makes you happy
- Cook your favorite meal, make some cocktails, or order out some of your favorite food/desserts
- Buy yourself something special that you’ve been wanting
- Plan a solo trip, again think of places that you’ve been wanting to go
- Read a book – I don’t know about you, but nothing makes me happier than to bury myself in a story
- Movie or TV show marathon – guilty pleasures.
- Refrain from going on any first dates, turn off Bumble and Tinder, and instead take yourself out.
Overall, the best gifts you can give yourself are things that truly make you happy. Personalize the day to your likes, and make it all about you.
Reasons to Celebrate
It doesn’t matter how you feel about being single, or whether or not you’re upset that you aren’t in a relationship. You don’t need a life partner to be happy or to celebrate life. I think the bigger idea is to celebrate the fact that relationships other than the romantic ones are just as important. Specifically, the relationship you have with yourself.
It’s easy to turn inward when things don’t go your way, or you don’t achieve what you hoped. For instance, I get really upset sometimes that I’m still single because I do want to get married and have a family, and I have been trying to meet people. When your efforts go unfulfilled it can be very frustrating.
Above that, though, I’m happy with who I am, I’m content with how my life is, and I’m genuinely excited about some of the things I do have working for me. That’s what I need to celebrate because I’m not defined by my relationship status. I’m defined by the person I make myself to be.
I’m not defined by my relationship status. I’m defined by the person I make myself to be.The Female Professional
The world is changing and so are we. A woman’s place is no longer just about finding someone to get married to and having kids. While many of us want those things, we also want others – career, pursuit of ambitions, accomplishments of goals – and we deserve to give ourselves time to pursue them.
I know a lot of people who do manage to do it all, marriage, kids career, and I also know those who are steeped in their careers still waiting to find the one. A friendly reminder:
Someone else’s progress does not equate to your failure.
Even more important, it’s better to be alone that to be with the wrong person.
If you’re still single then there’s a reason for it; because it’s not just about getting married, it’s about finding the right one, and being in the right place so that you can accept them into your life. So, if you haven’t found them yet, it’s ok. I haven’t either. One day hopefully it will happen. Until then, continue to celebrate all that you do have, all that you have accomplished, and all that you are working for.
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