As everyone who’s single is likely asking, “why”, I’d like to just give a friendly reminder: to keep the faith.
There are no stories for me to share at this time (even I need a break sometimes), but I’ve been doing a lot of thinking and soul searching in regards to dating.
So what do I mean by keep the faith.
I mean keep the faith in yourself. You know yourself best and are continuing to work on being the best version of yourself that you can be. You need someone that can match that, understand it, and support it. So when you reject guys, or they reject you, it’s ok. Because if it was the right person, the rejection wouldn’t happen, or wouldn’t be so easy. Don’t take it personally; take it philosophically. Know that you’re doing your best and that’s all you can do.
Timing is everything
Everything happens for a reason, right? It’s true in life, at work, and in dating (which I separate from life because it literally is its own microcosm of work and play and exhaustion). When you’re ready for someone, they’ll show up and vice versa. When you’re in a place to accept what is being offered (all the good stuff that truly matters, not just the icing on the cake), then your person will come. The universe will make it happen.
I know this sounds kind of mystical and most of you are probably like, “this sounds like a load of crap”, but I really think it’s true. Think about it, when you’re being the best version of yourself, you end up seeing opportunities that you maybe would have missed. When you’re in a place where you can’t accept goodness, you won’t see it when it’s right in front of you.
Keep going and working on yourself
Because timing really is everything, there’s not much you can do to control what’s going on outside of you. I.e., you can’t drag a guy (or gal) into your life just because you want him/her there. You can’t will a solid relationship to happen. You have to be ready for it, see it when it comes, accept it, and then get set to work on it to make it work.
I think when you’re in a place where you’re ready and able to accept it, you’ll end up getting much more than you ever imagined. Moreover, you’ll be much more likely to appreciate it and fight to keep it in your life.
So, what to do in the mean time?
As I said, work on yourself, be yourself, and continue to date and meet people. Be honest with yourself and what you’re looking for. Follow your instincts and do what you think is best, for yourself and whatever situation you end up in. Keep the faith in who you are and what you bring to the table, and have a little faith in the people you meet. You never know when it’ll work out and with whom!
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